Anatomy of a Marriage Break-Up

• Affairs From Starwatcher ^Pro in Anatomy of a Marriage Break-Up (281 days old)

  On the lighter side of things, one has to laugh……………………………………… The 1st Affair A married man was having an affair with his secretary. One day they went to her place and made love all afternoon… more

• Where Are You Going With Your Life? From Starwatcher ^Pro in Anatomy of a Marriage Break-Up (292 days old)

  “He went the way he had to go; rather nonchalantly and unsteadily, whistling to himself, gazing into vacancy with his head tilted to one side. And if it was the wrong way, then that was because for ce… more

• Unrequited Love and Fidelity (Part 2) From Starwatcher ^Pro in Anatomy of a Marriage Break-Up (292 days old)

  (More extracts from Tonio Kroger by Thomas Mann; translated into English by David Luke) How it hurt to feel the upsurge of wonderful, sad, creative powers within one, and yet to know that they can… more

• Unrequited Love (Part One) From Starwatcher ^Pro in Anatomy of a Marriage Break-Up (296 days old)

  I have recently read a translation by David Luke of Tonio Kroger by Thomas Mann (the German author, best known for Death in Venice), which was written in 1903. The main character of this short… more

• Love Potion From Starwatcher ^Pro in Anatomy of a Marriage Break-Up (305 days old)

  Apparently "obsession" is a form of madness. Research using brain scans has also shown that being "in love", suffering from obsessive compulsive disorder and being addicted to drugs activate the same … more

• Who Else Would Put Up With You? From Starwatcher ^Pro in Anatomy of a Marriage Break-Up (319 days old)

  ...I lock my door upon myself, And bar them out; but who shall wall Self from myself, most loathed of all? I Lock My Door Upon Myself - Christina G. Rossetti The apparent emotional immaturity… more

• The Dangers of Taking Our Emotions Too Seriously From Starwatcher ^Pro in Anatomy of a Marriage Break-Up (344 days old)

  (or Why We Need to ‘Get Over Ourselves’) We all have emotions and insecurities; things we want to keep hidden and things we need to explore; things that will hurt us forever and things that we lear… more

• What is Love? From Starwatcher ^Pro in Anatomy of a Marriage Break-Up (361 days old)

  I have tried to keep away from these pages for my sanity, and because of other priorities, but may occasionally dip back in as now: My (nearly ex-)wife ponders how long she can hold a man to her, t… more

• Nothing Left To Lose From Starwatcher ^Pro in Anatomy of a Marriage Break-Up (395 days old)

  I have taken a few days out to rest and think and suddenly it’s clear that I have to say goodbye to many parts of my life - including my brief time on these pages (at least for now). I have poured … more

• Is Your Glass Half Empty or Half Full? From Starwatcher ^Pro in Anatomy of a Marriage Break-Up (401 days old)

  The only certainty in life is that we continue getting older and then die. How long can one keep "chasing and searching" outside for happiness, rather than trying to develop and make what one alre… more

• The Saddest Day of My Life From Starwatcher ^Pro in Anatomy of a Marriage Break-Up (401 days old)

  Yesterday, I had to sanction the solicitor’s letter to be sent to my wife, inviting her to agree and sort out our separation/divorce affairs (through a Collaborative Process hopefully, rather than the… more

• The Difference Between the Credit Crunch and Divorce? From Starwatcher ^Pro in Anatomy of a Marriage Break-Up (403 days old)

  On the lighter side.................... A friend told me of a report in the paper yesterday on the effects of the Credit Crunch. A City worker, who was asked about how they had been affected by it,… more

• Now You See It, Now You Don't From Starwatcher ^Pro in Anatomy of a Marriage Break-Up (403 days old)

  A few posts ago, my wife states that she realised (though she did not comment to me on the fact of her observation at the time) that I had removed my wedding ring. This was in the context of a pos… more

• Seeking The Holy Grail - Finding Happiness From Starwatcher ^Pro in Anatomy of a Marriage Break-Up (403 days old)

  Reading the post of another (anonymous) fellow blogger I came across this quote: "When I was very, very young I used to think that I would find someone who would be the other half of me who would b… more

• Empty Words and Empty Statements From Starwatcher ^Pro in Anatomy of a Marriage Break-Up (403 days old)

  “I did not mean to hurt you……….” – well what exactly did you expect might result from what you did? “Short of getting back together, I will do anything not to see you hurting like this……” – well wh… more

• Why Do You Feel Guilty? From Starwatcher ^Pro in Anatomy of a Marriage Break-Up (403 days old)

  My wife makes reference to her feeling of “guilt” in a number of her posts. These references were usually followed by reassuring fellow blogger comments that she should not feel that way because she “… more

• Trapped in Fantasy. Trapped in Reality. From Starwatcher ^Pro in Anatomy of a Marriage Break-Up (404 days old)

  The fragility that was always there, both physical and in her soul, and which perversely was such a key element of why I fell in love with her, wanting to "protect" her, is still very much a part of h… more

• When the World Stops Spinning From Starwatcher ^Pro in Anatomy of a Marriage Break-Up (404 days old)

  Like every other morning since my world was first shattered and broken, when I leave home to set off into my new world of "solitude", by the time I get to the office my legs have still turned to jelly… more

• Will I Be Reclaimed? From Starwatcher ^Pro in Anatomy of a Marriage Break-Up (406 days old)

  It's a bit of a reclamation yard the Internet it seems. There are some treasures to be found amongst old, discarded items and people do seem to look for them. My wife found us an old fire-place at… more

• This House Is Empty Now From Starwatcher ^Pro in Anatomy of a Marriage Break-Up (406 days old)

  Today I have had a preview of what it will be like when she goes. A reminder of life "on one's own" with nothing in particular to do, no-one to see. I remember it well from 10 years ago, in another pl… more

• Fantasy or Reality - Lonely With You, Lonely Without You From Starwatcher ^Pro in Anatomy of a Marriage Break-Up (406 days old)

  Shame I do not have much hair that I can let down like her, or so she thinks………….the smell and sight of her long hair arranged on the pillow would always arouse……..my own fingers unable to resist trav… more

• Becoming Mr Invisible From Starwatcher ^Pro in Anatomy of a Marriage Break-Up (407 days old)

  Life and purpose have become suddenly "empty". My wife is still here in body, but her soul is elsewhere. I am still very much here both in body and soul - but somehow feel that I could be in danger of… more

• The Virgin and The Harlot Are One Woman To Me From Starwatcher ^Pro in Anatomy of a Marriage Break-Up (407 days old)

  More (a poem) by the late Tim Hardin: For Susan Just as I listen to the sounds in the air I, hear only you if that's where I'm looking - in you, of you, about you for and with you are my r… more

• How Can We Hang On To A Dream? From Starwatcher ^Pro in Anatomy of a Marriage Break-Up (407 days old)

  A very short song by the late, great Tim Hardin (probably best known for the song "If I Were A Carpenter") sums up how I feel: How Can We Hang On To A Dream? (Words/Music by Tim Hardin. Copyright … more

• Handbrake Turns and Skid Marks - All Over Me! From Starwatcher ^Pro in Anatomy of a Marriage Break-Up (409 days old)

  My nearly ex-wife is one of the few mothers of two who is adept at performing handbrake turns with a car - when its direction of travel is reversed through 180 degrees, before setting off at speed in … more

• I Am Not Alone! There is Life Out There, in the Beyond. From Starwatcher ^Pro in Anatomy of a Marriage Break-Up (410 days old)

  I just received a private message from another blogger which, understandably, was not made public, and whose anonymity I will preserve. The message went as follows: “What a very brave man to put… more

• Wife/Mother or Lover? From Starwatcher ^Pro in Anatomy of a Marriage Break-Up (410 days old)

  My wife hates to be tagged and play the role of "wife". That's part of the problem. She does not do "mumsy". She freely admits that she has never been and will never be an "earth mother". But I hav… more

• Bitter and Twisted? Definitely Stirred From Starwatcher ^Pro in Anatomy of a Marriage Break-Up (410 days old)

  Last night after I got home, my wife was very upset with me because of my last post, with reference to “lamb and mutton”, etc. Trouble was, she had cooked tuna steaks; and very nice they were too. Una… more

• More Cold Shoulder for Dinner? From Starwatcher ^Pro in Anatomy of a Marriage Break-Up (411 days old)

  My wife will give me hell probably - I've just realised the time! I must dash home for some more cold shoulder - and I don't mean lamb, unless it's mutton! Actually, I am being very unkind. She's b… more

• She's Always A Woman From Starwatcher ^Pro in Anatomy of a Marriage Break-Up (411 days old)

  This is one of my wife's favourite songs and one that I would often play for her on the piano. I can't sing (to the standard of my playing!), so I've never really taken much notice of the lyrics befor… more

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