I just received a private message from another blogger which, understandably, was not made public, and whose anonymity I will preserve.
The message went as follows:
“What a very brave man to put your point of view so clearly and without venom. I admire your stand - too often people only see one side of a marriage breakdown.
I have observed many instances of married women having their heads turned via cyber 'friends' and wish I could warn them that being a divorced woman isn't all it's cracked up to be!
I hope your blog will redress the balance.”
I replied as follows:
“Thank you so much for your kind comment and observation.
I don't think there is any venom in what I have said about my wife, but she may beg to differ!
I very much appreciate your message of support. I am sure that I am not alone in experiencing my relationship being "turned" like this, being tipped over the edge, by cyber "friends". I know that their comments were well intentioned and I do not blame them.
However, cyberspace has become like a drug, an addiction, a "fix" for too many. Somewhere where you prefer to be and talk, rather than addressing directly those in your reality to improve your situation.
Thank you again for your comment - I thought that I was writing in a vacuum. It has cheered me up.”
I then received this reply in response:
“I'm glad my message cheered you up - I guess I should have commented publicly but didn't want to appear to be taking sides.
Cyberspace has to be handled with extreme caution after all we must live in the real world.
It's a shame when couples stop communicating with each other.”
I would like to publicly thank this kind person once again for speaking out. I hope that others will. I don’t think that anyone should be seen as “taking sides” for doing so.
